THE DATE I'M HAVING & THE DATES I HAVE HAD

My dating game has changed, and I stopped analysing the fairer-sex species. Instead, I nowadays focus on the woman in front of me.
All I do is to listen attentivellty when she tells me who she aspires to be and how often she would say 'please, thank you, and, I love you'.
And I have made it a point that she gets to know and understand me as a person: my crazy nature, my intellectual curiousity, the confident, mellow-self in me = Nkonzo.

However, I must hasten to add that my woman was never compared to any other woman I have dated before. She's no carbon copy or the replacement of "iJongosi", but she's her own u"NoDoli wami' on her own right and purposes.

My new approach to dating is a foolproof methodology of finding a soulmate, not just "mating", as I am simply tired of penetrating too many "holes', God forbid my pun.

Central question arises on how do I feel about this woman, do we have the chemistry that will sustain our relationship over 5 days, 5 weeks or 50 years towards our very own old age circumstances?
Giving a clear-cut answer on the question was hard to find, but the popular TV show answers by saying:"If she's dated 5 men in less than 5 years, she's no ideal marriage material, but a big no no no," -The Bachelor

Hence, I vividly recall Richard Gere and Diane Lane co-starring 'NIGHTS in RODANTHE' when they sweetly said in unison that; "It's never too late for a second chance, as the love storm forces each to turn to the other for strength, setting the stage for a life-resonating romance."

After reading John & Stasi Eldredge book "Love & War" - Finding the marriage you've dreamed of - I learnt that partners have to fight for their love and happiness.
Lovers ought to discover how their individual journeys are growing and also realised that they are intertwined into a story of meaning much greater than anything they could do or be on their individualistic capacities.
Simply put, we all as loving people need to have hope and vision and that perfect storm found in every love relationship normally leads to the greatest gift you can ever give to another person, which is aptly known as 'ETERNAL LOVE TO YOUR PARTNER'.
ENDS